Everyone knows how important a word can be wen you’re dating. Not just wat you say but the way tht you say it.

 In fact, everything bout a lover’s voice is important  remember how exciting it was the first time your partner whispered in your ear? Most couples go on to gradually develop their own private lover’s language, which bonds them together and excludes everyone else.

 But everyone’s taste are different, which means tht wat arouses one lover leaves another completely cold. So watch how a new partner responds as you whisper your latest sweet nothing. No reaction? Don’t use it again.

 But don’t give up either! Try out all sorts of words to enhance the intimacy between you. You have plenty to choose from – every language has loads of words for wat lovers do together. For parts of their bodies, for example, sweet talk and pet names. Which goes to show tht our ancestors were not only good at inventing intimate words, but realized how important they are.

 After all, almost every time we make luv everything starts wit a word. But forget wat a difference they can make. And tht’s a shame, because even the most successful couples seem to hav less sex as years go by.

 There’s no ‘right’ amount, of course, though two or three times a week is the statistical average. More often for new couples, less for older ones.

 Some couples stick to a pretty regular routine, while others go bananas over the occasional weekend. You shouldn’t be trying to stick to a timetable in any case though one enterprising couples published a book bout their project to make luv every single day for 100 days. They succeeded by the way – though they admitted tht they took a long rest afterwards!

 So don’t panic bout the numbers. There are bound to be times wen you don’t feel like it, and also times wen you’ll surprise yourself! If it’s not happening, think first bout stress and fatigue, then check out emotional issues like resentment or anger. After tht, think bout your priorities! Because wen we start a relationship, everything takes second place to sex. later on, it’s the other way round. And there’s no doubt tht urban men and women are getting less than they used to because nowadays they hav so little free time.

 But intimacy is a necessity in any successful relationship. So get your diary out and see if you can’t cross out a few things. Schedule yourselves one hour a day alone together – and time spent sleeping or watching TV doesn’t count! Add one evening to yourselves a week and the occasional weekend, even if you hav children.

  It’s easier than you think. Enforce early bedtimes, buy a baby alarm, tell older children wen they can and can’t interrupt you, send them round to their grandparents as often as you can and fit a lock to the bedroom door! And don’t feel even slightly guilty. Being intimate together makes you better parents, not worse.

 Don’t feel you hav to make luv every time you’re alone together. Just talk, enjoy each other’s company, but also practice being seductive! Be attentive, affectionate, and let your partner know your intentions. And in a long-standing relationship, at least try to respond to every approach.

 It won’t always work, but a few moments kissing and cuddling to see if your bodies will get the hint are never wasted. They usually do, even wen you least expect them to.

 Work too on understanding the subtleties of each other’s language – after all ‘stop!’ can just as often mean ‘Go!’ I fact, successful couples use words so skillfully tht there always seems to be a whiff of intimacy in the air around them, always a little teasing and the hint of possibilities later.

 And yet no one who overheard them would ever quite figure out wat was going on. So don’t forget those words of luv, no matter how long you’ve been together.

 Use your lover’s language to appreciate and encourage each other. And to improve your timing. Because it’s teasing, hints and allusions like tht which bring your partner’s mood into line with yours. So work on your lover’s vocabulary, and passion will last forever!